This post is one of those bittersweet moments where I’ve decided to leave an old friendship behind. I’ve known this person practically all my life, and it’s hard to even pinpoint when things started to go awry. Looking back, I realize now that sharing my wins never seemed to excite her much, but any story of a setback or loss would light her up in ways that left me unsettled. I’ve reached a point where it’s clear we’ve come to the end of the road, especially in this friendship.
Ironically, she was the one who introduced me to the Webador platform, and for that, I’ll always be grateful. But recently, things took a strange turn.
When I shared my blog post about the memorable experience of frying eggs with candles, instead of engaging with the fun and joy of that moment, she immediately accused me of "stealing her idea to blog." Honestly, I couldn’t help but laugh, it was so far from the truth.
For years, I’ve been blogging on platforms like WIXIT, long before she ever mentioned Webador. I only stopped for a while because I hadn’t renewed my subscription, and when I saw that Webador was more affordable, I naturally hopped on the bandwagon. Sharing my stories and experiences has always been part of who I am, and anyone who knows me knows that my life is a daily mix of drama, adventure, and unexpected moments. We don’t even share the same audience or life experiences, so the idea that I "stole" something from her is not only untrue but a bit absurd.
What truly throws me off, though, is how upset she seems that I’m writing at all. What happened to the idea that the sky is big enough for all of us to shine?
There’s room for everyone to share their stories, their creativity, their truth. But it seems that for her, my decision to blog again feels like competition rather than celebration.
At this point, I’ve realised I’m done carrying the fig leaf, always trying to keep the peace, always bending to avoid conflict. Today, I draw the line. I refuse to dim my light for anyone, especially not for someone who should have been clapping for me all along.
So, to this friend, I say: Girl, bye. I wish you all the best in life, but our journey together ends here.
I appreciate all but we must move past this childish yet bitter stage.
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Like the popular saying goes "the signs were always there". This person never wanted to see you win and it showed in their reaction when you would share your small and big wins with them. As humans, we have a tendency to ignore negative and sometimes dangerous patterns in people close to us because out of the goodness in our hearts, we just want to see the good in them. But that's on them, not us.
It's unfortunate that a long-standing friendship has to end because of sheer envy.
But one of the signs of being a high value person is putting yourself first, which includes walking away from people relationships that don't serve you. What you did is courageous, I'm most proud of you for choosing yourself.